The Best Love Story Ever
Our stories about love are more than a little crazy. Romeo and Juliet is not a love story—it’s a three-day relationship between a 13- and a 17-year-old. It’s a story of infatuation, which is a word derived from fatuous, or…
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A meditation on vulnerability, survival, and comfort when there is no escape.
Moments of raw vulnerability come for everyone – those moments when you feel totally helpless. Like your life is over. One of the great struggles for all of us is to answer the question, “How can I find a way…
International Women’s Day 2021: How EFT and gender equality intersect
Today is International Women’s Day! It always strikes me as a little strange we actually have to have an IWD in 2021 – as women make up half the planet’s population! But we do. This year’s theme is “Choose to…
Ready for Change in 2021? Give Online Therapy a Chance.
I was a non-believer in the idea that online therapy can be just as effective as a live session. Of course, I am all-thumbs when it comes to computers. I believed that the insistence on “online everything” was ruining intimacy…
When the act of seeking comfort in the face of dire threats is risky business: What now?
Last month, the air was terrible: the West Coast wildfires happening hundreds of miles away were affecting us. I couldn’t see through a curtain of grey haze the trees that are about 20 feet from my house . We humans…
Statement on Anti-Racism and Black Lives Matter
Anything I say about systemic racism, the fight against police brutality and for shifting police departments towards a model that serves communities rather than terrorizes them, and the resulting turmoil and swelling societal push for reform – anything I say…
Lockdown with Your Partner: A Wake-Up Call?
So now suddenly, you have time together. In fact, oceans of time! Does your heart leap at the thought of more time with your partner or does it begin to sink into doubt and despair? Joan tells me, “Me and…
Sheltering in Place – and Learning from COVID-19
The chant in my house when someone goes to leave is, “Stay 6 feet away – no closer than 6 feet.” The message everywhere has been that physical distancing is the only way to defeat this virus and the fear…
The Message of Marriage Story Works – Every Day!
The recent Netflix film Marriage Story had its share of awards buzz this year, and deservedly so. It hits home because it shows all the nuances of an unravelling bond. There are the rituals of care that any two lovers…
In This Crucial New Decade, Relationships Matter as Always
New decade, new beginnings, new journeys. Everyone seems to agree that the new decade will be crucial for the ecology of our planet, for democracy, and for human rights. Should we be weeping and wailing for a divided and disintegrating…