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As someone who loves to dance Argentine Tango, I was drawn to this this recent article in the New York Times about how feminists in Argentina are reshaping tango. Here is my take on the views expressed in this article about the patriarchal culture of Tango and issues like “How much touch is too much?” First, PLEASE don’t let’s get all politically correct and get vigilant about “touch” in tango. Tango is a CLOSE dance: you have to literally feel your partner’s body cues. If you want to avoid intimate touch, then best to choose another dance. That being said, in 15 years of dancing I have never experienced inappropriate touch on the dance floor anywhere in the world. After all, the dance floor is a very public place.

Depending on where you live, it might be the height of wedding season. And I just heard that next year my son will be one of the ones getting married! As a relationship expert, I found myself thinking about what…

There was a fascinating article about the “Sex Recession” in the December 2018 edition of The Atlantic by Kate Julian. Apparently, in the age of sexual tolerance, Grindr and Tinder, and ubiquitous sexting, American teenagers and young adults are having less sex!…

I just read the amazing reviews for my new book for therapists and counsellors. It’s called Attachment Theory in Practice: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with Individuals, Couples, and Families (January 2019). They are beyond positive, talking about how the book…

There is a new book out by Gemma Hartley called Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women and the Way Forward. Interesting! This labor is defined by Ms. Hartley as “unpaid invisible work we do to keep those around us comfortable and happy.” The…

I spend my days planning research studies, proofing books, and giving talks, all on the topic of love relationships and how to understand and repair relationships. Today I suddenly realized: tomorrow is my 30thwedding anniversary! 30 years. How can this…

All the research from the last 30 years about the most potent therapy for relationship growth and recovery on this planet, plus the newest research on building intimate bonds… it all says the same thing: To foster connection we need…