Thoughts on Father’s Day
Father’s Day is always poignant for me because I was blessed with a wonderful, exceptional Dad. So I always want to deeply thank men like my dad, Arthur Driver, who never read a book on parenting, and not many books on anything at all… and so he and men like…
Seen and Safe: Talk therapy as adventure and not a simple “chat”
In a world captivated by instant solutions, the ancient art of conversation often gets overshadowed. The prevailing notion that mere talk can't resolve issues has led many to seek alternative paths like exercise, meditation, or quick fixes. However, amid these trends, the timeless practice of engaging in meaningful dialogue remains a potent tool for self-discovery and connection.
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The Best Love Story Ever
Our stories about love are more than a little crazy. Romeo and Juliet is not a love story—it’s a three-day relationship between a 13- and a 17-year-old. It’s a story of infatuation, which is a word derived from fatuous, or “inanely foolish.” Gone with the Wind is not a love…
A meditation on vulnerability, survival, and comfort when there is no escape.
Moments of raw vulnerability come for everyone – those moments when you feel totally helpless. Like your life is over. One of the great struggles for all of us is to answer the question, “How can I find a way through this darkness?” Fear is a program for escape, but…
International Women’s Day 2021: How EFT and gender equality intersect
Today is International Women’s Day! It always strikes me as a little strange we actually have to have an IWD in 2021 – as women make up half the planet’s population! But we do. This year’s theme is “Choose to Challenge.” Alongside racism and financial inequality, the basic inequality between…
Ready for Change in 2021? Give Online Therapy a Chance.
I was a non-believer in the idea that online therapy can be just as effective as a live session. Of course, I am all-thumbs when it comes to computers. I believed that the insistence on “online everything” was ruining intimacy and stifling people’s ability to connect with one another. As…
When the act of seeking comfort in the face of dire threats is risky business: What now?
Last month, the air was terrible: the West Coast wildfires happening hundreds of miles away were affecting us. I couldn’t see through a curtain of grey haze the trees that are about 20 feet from my house . We humans are a particular, peculiar kind of animal: we tend not…
Statement on Anti-Racism and Black Lives Matter
Anything I say about systemic racism, the fight against police brutality and for shifting police departments towards a model that serves communities rather than terrorizes them, and the resulting turmoil and swelling societal push for reform – anything I say about these troubles in the United States would be simply…
Lockdown with Your Partner: A Wake-Up Call?
So now suddenly, you have time together. In fact, oceans of time! Does your heart leap at the thought of more time with your partner or does it begin to sink into doubt and despair? Joan tells me, “Me and Bob have had our problems, but facing this together is…
Sheltering in Place – and Learning from COVID-19
The chant in my house when someone goes to leave is, “Stay 6 feet away – no closer than 6 feet.” The message everywhere has been that physical distancing is the only way to defeat this virus and the fear that comes along with it. But we have other ways…