Sue Johnson

Anything I say about systemic racism, the fight against police brutality and for shifting police departments towards a model that serves communities rather than terrorizes them, and the resulting turmoil and swelling societal push for reform – anything I say…

So now suddenly, you have time together. In fact, oceans of time! Does your heart leap at the thought of more time with your partner or does it begin to sink into doubt and despair? Joan tells me, “Me and…

The chant in my house when someone goes to leave is, “Stay 6 feet away – no closer than 6 feet.” The message everywhere has been that physical distancing is the only way to defeat this virus and the fear…

The recent Netflix film Marriage Story had its share of awards buzz this year, and deservedly so. It hits home because it shows all the nuances of an unravelling bond. There are the rituals of care that any two lovers…

New decade, new beginnings, new journeys. Everyone seems to agree that the new decade will be crucial for the ecology of our planet, for democracy, and for human rights. Should we be weeping and wailing for a divided and disintegrating…

As someone who loves to dance Argentine Tango, I was drawn to this this recent article in the New York Times about how feminists in Argentina are reshaping tango. Here is my take on the views expressed in this article about the patriarchal culture of Tango and issues like “How much touch is too much?” First, PLEASE don’t let’s get all politically correct and get vigilant about “touch” in tango. Tango is a CLOSE dance: you have to literally feel your partner’s body cues. If you want to avoid intimate touch, then best to choose another dance. That being said, in 15 years of dancing I have never experienced inappropriate touch on the dance floor anywhere in the world. After all, the dance floor is a very public place.

Depending on where you live, it might be the height of wedding season. And I just heard that next year my son will be one of the ones getting married! As a relationship expert, I found myself thinking about what…

There was a fascinating article about the “Sex Recession” in the December 2018 edition of The Atlantic by Kate Julian. Apparently, in the age of sexual tolerance, Grindr and Tinder, and ubiquitous sexting, American teenagers and young adults are having less sex!…

I just read the amazing reviews for my new book for therapists and counsellors. It’s called Attachment Theory in Practice: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with Individuals, Couples, and Families (January 2019). They are beyond positive, talking about how the book…