“The greatest gift one lover has to give another, is emotionally attuned attention and timely responsiveness.”
Dr. Sue Johnson
Any researcher knows that, if you aspire to be an ‘objective’ scientist, you are not allowed to be passionately impressed by your own research. I am now going to break that rule. (more…)
Tags: attachment, bonds, brain, connection, couple, couples, EFT, emotion, emotionally focused therapy, family, fight, happy, Love, marriage, relationship, research, science, study, therapist, therapy
In this New Year, fifteen years into the new century, I hope that in this year, we learn to deal better with (more…)
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Just back from the MindBodyGreen REVITALIZE summit in beautiful Tucson, Arizona – two days of amazing and inspirational talks on wellness. (more…)
Tags: bonding, bonds, couple, expert, Feist, health, heart, intelligently, Love, MindBodyGreen, research, science, wellness
Marriage makes a difference to your brain – and the safety of your world.
We live in a co-habiting world. Many of us do not even bother to walk down the aisle anymore. So my neuroscientist colleague Jim Coan’s recent finding that our brains make a real distinction between formal marriage and living together in terms of how we deal with danger and threat is totally fascinating. (more…)
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The stock market is falling; mysterious codes called Nasdaq and Dow Jones are now at some record low. What does this mean for families, for couple relationships? (more…)
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