“Love Sense” draws on biology, neuroscience, and clinical psychology, delving into the chemistry of love, including the function of the hormone oxytocin ………  there is much in “Love Sense” that any couple who has ever felt out of tune will relate to, and good advice for building harmony for the long haul.
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From the Wall Street Journal, January 13, 2014

Love is a Dance

love is a dance

 

There are only so many dances in a love relationship.

The happier we are, the more fluid and varied the dance with our partner is. We feel safe together so we improvise and play.

But do you notice that, when we fight, the dance is always the same? It is narrow – small – not many moves. We feel like we have no options. The negative pattern takes over the relationship.

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How Does Love Work?

 

To shape love, we have to be open and responsive, emotionally as well as physically. We can see what love encompasses in studies of the fluffy little titi monkey conducted by Bill Mason and Sally Mendoza of the University of California. Females nurse their babies but don’t offer any other maternal responses. (more…)

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Three Kinds of Sex

 

Attachment theory can help us understand sexuality better. In a secure attachment relationship, the three aspects of relatedness – sexuality, caregiving and attachment – are integrated. (more…)

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Love in the Pharmacy

 

 

We love pills. We rely on them. So often with a simple swallow they take care of our physical distress – and calm our hearts and minds into the bargain. So now we are starting to understand the chemistry of love, I guess its natural to wish for a pill the will turn on love or keep love coming  – a commitment or anti- infidelity pill.

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Monogamy: a myth or a possibility?

 

Is it natural for human beings to live a monogamous existence? When I ask this question, people look at me with surprise and answer derisively. A colleague from Europe tells me, “Oh, no-one is getting married these days. They are just so discouraged. What is the point? Monogamy is unrealistic, impossible.” My friend mutters, “It’s about time we gave up on that one! It’s a myth.” So when I am asked this very question by a television host, I take a very deep breath before I answer, “YES. I think we are naturally monogamous.” You can hear jaws dropping everywhere. (more…)

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